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Why is Personal Space so important?

RenYou: Why is Personal Space so important?

Think of your personal space like a closet organizer. A closet organizer not only keeps your closet neat, aesthetically pleasing and makes getting dressed a whole lot easier, but more importantly, gives each item its own place. Reds are not grouped with pinks, dress socks don’t sit with gym socks and blouses hang while your sweaters are folded. Your closet organizer can be your best friend if you respect the fact why you had it installed in the first place.

When it comes to setting boundaries, your personal space is structured the same way as a closet organizer. No matter the friend, sibling, parent, relative, child or even pet, it’s important for you to know and understand where each person in your life fits.

When you allow people to enter your personal space, make sure you really want them there. If you don’t your life may end up resembling a disorganized closet. Everyday, treat your personal space with respect and dignity. After all, how useful is it to have clutter staring you in the face?

How to Create Personal Space

To create a personal space:

1) Draw an imaginary circle around you.
2) Congratulations on task #1. You now own this circle (this is yours to keep so don’t let anyone trespass).
3) Honour the space between your physical body and your circle.
4) Bring awareness to your space (How does it look and feel?).
5) Keep out negative influences. They only contribute to clutter.
6) Carry your space with you. You should never leave home without it.

Manifesting your personal space is simple, but taking ownership of it can be a challenge. Like a closet organizer, the more
aware you become of its purpose, the more you will appreciate why it’s there.

So the next time someone annoys or upsets you, bring your awareness back to your circle and let them know they’ve crossed the line. How often have we asked ourselves, “Why do I always let this person walk all over me?” If you respect your personal space, others will, too.

I believe there are many things you can control in life and many that you can’t, but one thing’s for certain your personal space is free of charge so everyone can afford to have one.

Perfectly Imperfect

One day while I was grabbing a coffee, I overheard a couple of colleagues lamenting about another co-worker who apparently “had it all.” Before they walked away, one said, “Fortunate for her for being born under a lucky star.” The other replied, “I only wish I was as fortunate as Ms. Perfect.” I wanted to tell them to wake up and smell the coffee as the person they were glorifying is just as imperfect as they are.

We’ve all heard the grass is always greener on the other side. While this can be true in some cases, it’s difficult to build self-respect when we are constantly comparing ourselves to others and putting them above us.

Sure the person you are comparing yourself to may appear to have a “perfect life,” but if you were to take a moment to get to know them, I bet you’ll discover he or she is no different than you are. That person may have the same fears, faults and misconceptions as you do. We are so imperfect by nature that through media, magazines and the latest diet fads we’ve come to believe that we should strive to look a certain way.

One of the ways to get around this way of thinking is to remember that nature did not intend for us to be perfect. There is no such thing as a perfect person or life. The only way we ever see it manifested is on the big screen, and even Hollywood can’t make authentic representations because this concept doesn’t exist.

The next time you catch yourself comparing yourself to others, bring your focus and awareness back to you. Remember, you are just as important and unique as the person you are glorifying. You are on the same balance scale of life.

A few tips on life:

1) Accept that you are perfectly imperfect.
2) Accept that everyone else is too.
3) Stop comparing.
4) Don’t judge others because you feel that they have more.
5) Discontinue the belief that you somehow got the short end of the stick.
6) Be grateful for “YOU.”

Keep these tips in mind the next time you come across someone who you think has it all.

Instead, remember how fortunate you both are for breathing the same air, walking the same earth and being born under that same lucky star. Accepting the perfectly imperfect principle will help you embrace and honour your own life that much more.